An open letter to the USCCB.


In response to this open letter from the USCCB.


Dear USCCB and other “religious leaders” who signed your open letter,

As parents of gender diverse children and young people, many of us come together to support each other as we buffer our sproggets against the cruel effects of a society that often dehumanises them and frequently uses religious sentiment to deny them self-determination and agency.

In times past, your organisation has claimed special knowledge about the best way to live our lives and people have relied on your wisdom, believing it to be god-given. But no more, and definitely not in this matter. Your institution(s) have consistently shown themselves as refuges for those who would harm children and your oft-repeated response of protecting the churches and valuing dogma over the well-being of the vulnerable people in your care is manifestly inadequate from those who claim a ‘leadership’ role.

The evidence across the board shows that gender diverse people of all ages have better outcomes when they receive affirmation of their gender expression and are supported in their right to determine for themselves the best way to spend their lives and manage their relationships. This civil freedom is a right that should be afforded to all people, from choosing the clothes they wear, the social roles that they play, the professions that they perform, the healthcare that they seek and the happinesses that they pursue.

You see, it is not for us (or you) to decide identity for our children. We simply respond to their identities with (actual) love, compassion and respect for their abilities to decide for themselves who they are and how they wish to live – we maintain that it is the opposite that causes them harm – That trying to dictate rigid gender attributes and roles that have never fit all members in our society has long been a source of angst and misery for many people. Love is not about controlling or dictating or denying.

We reject your claim that good lives cannot be lived while experiencing things outside the narrow boundaries that you seek to define. We reject your claim of superior knowledge in this area and will instead be listening to what gender diverse people tell us that they need. It is our experience that this is the best path toward happiness and peace for our families.

See you in 50 years when you catch up.


The Most Irreverent Yolanda Bogert.

It’s here! ~ Our book.


We’ve finally finished!

Last year I was approached by a kinda nutty, but persistent publisher at Affirm Press in Melbourne and asked to write our family story as a memoir – and here it is:

After a year of blood, sweat and gin – and plenty of tears and laughs with my incredible editor, Kate – we smeared our private guts onto paper for your entertainment and curiosity, and maybe for your understanding too.


It will be launched on the 1st of April (yes, really) – You can pre-order a printed copy here, or a digital copy here or here.  I can’t imagine that it’d do anything more than muss up the first page, but if anybody really wants it signed, I’d be happy to. 🙂

I hope you like it!

Million Paws Walk


Kai and I will be walking with Pebbles in the RSPCA’s Million Paws Walk this year on the 15th of May at Southbank in Brisbane – Come and join us, or if you can spare some dosh, I’m sure the RSPCA will put it to good use saving pets and wildlife.

I’ve seen first hand the amazing work the wildlife clinic and ambulances do – they deserve our support!