Happy Turkey Day!


I know that today is an important family day for many Americans and I know that many of those Americans are gender and sexuality diverse sproggets that can’t celebrate it with their families because they have been rejected.

Kai and I want to send a big virtual hug to those sproggets, young and old, and remind you that you are not alone. There are those of us who envision a world where people aren’t rejected for who they love or how they identify or express themselves, but celebrated for it. We’re all out here right now loving you, fighting for that world – trying to change hearts, one at a time. So hang in there.

I like my turkeys better when they’re standing up, and we don’t really have Thanksgiving here in Australia.. Also, it’s pretty hot right now. But we’ll have a cold drink and toast to you.



The First Australian National Trans Mental Health Study


This report is a vital step towards improving mental healthcare and healthcare generally for trans persons – Please take the time to read and share it.



Included in the preface is a link to the story of Amber Maxwell, a young woman who wrote about her life in Western Australia shortly before she died, another victim of our failure to address trans healthcare needs.




Life gets away from us and this project has taken a bit longer than I planned, but so far our email has been sent to nearly a hundred schools and the initial responses have been encouraging.

I have always thought that educators drawn to working with young people have an inherent compassion and kindness above and beyond the rest of us mere mortals ~ I love being proven right about that.

School staff work so hard and face so many challenges, I really appreciate everybody taking the time to read our email and caring so much about our GLBTIAQ+ sprogs. It really is heartwarming.

I swear there are some invisible onions being cut in my house today.

Sadness today.


I’ve been trying to find words since I read the heartbreaking and tragic story of Leelah Alcorn last night. I want to say things, but I don’t know quite how.

It’s all just so damned unnecessary.. Her pain, her loneliness.. her death. Bah.. I have no words. It’s just so very sad. Such an articulate young woman, she said it – This is not good enough. We need to fix it. We’re failing our kids.

I wish I knew the way to explain to parents that they don’t own their children, that they aren’t the ones that get to choose who their children grow up to be, or what they believe or how they express themselves or what they do with their lives. What you do get a say in is how your sprog experiences their world and family – You get to choose whether or not they are shamed for who they are and you get to choose whether or not they feel safe and loved and cherished and accepted.

This is a really easy decision.

To any sprogs out there who can relate to Leelah, who feel the same hopelessness, I wont try to placate you with “It gets better”. But it CAN. I’m begging you, please don’t take the out that Leelah chose. Please give us another chance. There ARE people out here who care and who want to help you make things better. We WILL make things better.

If there is nobody else to turn to, message Kai and I and we will try and help you source local support resources. Please hang in there, baby.